Going
South ... continued
I had a long-term Maori boyfriend, Buddy, whom I had met about a year
before I started training, and at first I saw him as often as I could.
He wasn't what my mother thought. Buddy was better educated, kinder,
and far more loving than I was, but it was just so difficult. His mother
and his stern sisters were as opposed to our relationship as my mother.
I had no real reason for thinking it, but I sensed that they thought
me a piece of pakeha rubbish. As my life became more and more involved
with nursing, I began seeing Buddy less and less. Finally I broke up
with him, made easier by the fact that he saw it coming and got very
bitter toward the end.
One morning on the ward I threw up. My period was late (nothing unusual
there), my breasts were sore (nothing unusual there, either). But to
me, it was clear I was pregnant. Immediately I went off the rails. It
was over, I had nothing to lose. Life became a series of parties. Where
earlier I had crept back into the nurses' home over a roof and in my
window, I began not to bother going back at all, crashing at parties
and going back next day in time for duty.
Eventually the Home Sister caught on and contacted my mother, and I
was sent home. Buddy showed up at the door one day. He knew I'd been
running around, but he came just the same. I sent him away.
Within a week or two, I was shipped off to be a mother's helper to a
doctor and his family in Wanganui for the duration of my pregnancy.
Nobody was likely to see me there. The two kids were bratty and spoiled,
but the worst of it was Mrs. J., a patronizing woman with bulging eyes
and nicotine-stained fingers. She had been a nurse in Wellington before
marrying the doctor. The whole family referred to me, in my presence,
as 'the babysitter.' Each day brought new snubs and humiliations. I
was just one of a long series of stupid, worthless girls who worked
for nothing, and who were nothing.
One night at the dinner table, I stood to collect the plates, not noticing
that the doctor had a piece of bread uneaten on his plate. 'You could
at least wait till we finish eating,' snapped his wife, cigarette already
in her hand.
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